Thursday, January 28, 2016

Home Aaron and School Aaron

Is it really so out there for me to think that people might stop for one second before they do something in regards to my child and say..."Aaron is severely autistic....maybe this isn't the best idea. Maybe we should take the 2 seconds it takes to call his mom and ask her what she thinks?"
There is a home Aaron and a school Aaron, just like there is a home Rachel and a school Rachel. I try and try to explain this to people...in detail....but I just get, "Well a lot of kids are like that at that age" or "Well that's what (3, 4, 5, 6...87) year old's do!" or " Blah blah blah....all kids are the same....imnotlisteningtoyou."
IT'S NOT THE SAME...IT'S NOT IT'S NOT IT'S NOT THE SAME
As smart as Aaron is, and as much as he keeps his $#!% together at school (because he really does and no pun intended with the s...) he is still severely autistic and the more people show me with the little things they do that they aren't always keeping that in the back of their mind somewhere, bothers me.
One day it's a small thing...then a series of small things....then before you know it my kid wanders away because someone wasn't watching...
(that didn't happen...just throwing out one of the worst case scenarios)
It's not the current things happening that are my issue....it's what the "things" represent. They represent a lack of acknowledgement or understanding of the existence of the home Aaron. The real home Aaron that can appear at any moment and if he does appear he needs to be taken care of.
Why is it so hard to get people to understand that? Ugh....